The Golden Heart

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“Do”s for Boys

Here now a list of what a gentleman should do, in order to impress his girl.

1) Be brave 

Protect her from the dangers of this world (even if the danger is just a spider) 

2) Let her know that you want her and need her

Yes, she needs to hear that it’s her who you want. Say it to her, often.

3) Be confident, but don’t overdo it

Being confident makes her feel safe and like you know what you want. Just don’t be overly confident.

4) Do spontaneous, fun things with her

Go dance with her in the rain, run through the park, take her out on a random night for no reason, do things that will keep your romance alive.

5) Let her wear your clothes

Yes, even that sweater you love so much or that expensive jacket. Try not to be mad, when there’s a stain on your clothes. I know, it’s a challenge.

6) Take the lead, but let her take it as well sometimes

Girls like it when a boy takes the lead, but sometimes a woman wants to lead the way too. Let her do it, when she is about to.

7) Show physical affection

Not just sexual - hug her, hold her hand… make her feel loved.

8) Groom yourself for her and you

You don’t need to be perfectly groomed but clean yourself up and maybe wear that suit she likes when you go out together.

9) Be someone she can rely on

She needs you? You’ll be there when you can and even when you can’t, you will try to be there.

10) Be patient

Be patient with her, even when she is moody or takes hours in the bathroom.

11) Help her with things she can’t do

She is too short to reach the upper shelf or she has no idea how to fix the car or can’t open that bottle? Help her.

12) Be curious about her

Ask her stuff about her family and friends, how her day was. What her favorite color or flowers are. Show your interest.

13) Be kind

Always try to show her kindness, even when she makes you mad.

14) Show compassion when she is in pain

Don’t judge her for being in pain or analyze how much pain she’s in, simply show compassion, when she feels bad.

15) Show your tears

No one likes a crybaby, but it is ok to cry, when you are sad. Especially, when you are scared of losing us.

16) Try to be funny

Even if you’re not - and trust me, she will find it lovable.

17) Be proud and show her off

She’s your girl - let everyone know and let her know that you showed her off.

18) Be positive

Think positively and encourage her, even when all hope seems lost

19) Be passionate

Show her you are passionate about her and your relationship

20) Be generous

Share with her

21) Be loyal

Don’t cheat on her, even when she won’t know about it

22) Work hard, but take some of your time for her

23) Introduce her to your friends and family

24) Be fair

25) Work together on improving the relationship

26) Be well-mannered

27) Control yourself

28) Be original

29) Be independent

30) Be gentle

31)  Be honest, but in a kind way

32) Make her your priority

33) Forgive her

34) Let her use your phone and computer

35) Admit when you are jealous

36) Do things you don’t like, to make her smile

37) Tell her you love her

38) Surprise her with gifts

39) Trust her and believe her

40) Apologize and make up for mistakes

41) Talk about the things you want in bed and the things you don’t want

42) Love her flaws

43) Stop her, when she wants to leave

44) Text her and call her regularly

45) Tell her you miss her

46) Laugh with her

47) Talk about the future you imagine with her

48) Call her a sweet nickname or pet name

49) Listen to her and pay attention

50) Be the man you would want your daughter to marry

51) Be happy to see her

Types of girls to stay away from  Part 2*For the males out there*

12) The one who doesn’t get your jokes

Yeah boys, sometimes your jokes are quite stupid. But a girl who NEVER laughs about your jokes, doesn’t really like you. There is not even a smile on her lips about how terrible your jokes are? She doesn’t want to get emotionally too involved with you then. 

13) The one who has no patience with you

We all have our moments, when we get impatient. But if she is NEVER patient with you, she might see you as a waste of time later on.

14) The one who starts silly fights all the time

We all have silly fights, but you fight everyday about things like which movie to watch, the way you wear your T-Shirt again or why you don’t like potatoes… This girl is not only annoying, but she is unhappy. Fix it together or let her go.

15) The one who can’t compromise

Everything has to go her way and never yours? She is selfish. Dump her.

16) The one who still has her dating apps installed

Alright, maybe she forgot to delete them. But if you tell her about it and she still insists on keeping them, she wants to keep her options open or has more things going on. Dump her.

17) The one who always “didn’t pay attention” when you speak

Sure, we all get distracted. But she will more often than not be like “Huh? I wasn’t listening” after you have been speaking for half an hour. She just didn’t care to listen.

18) The manipulative one

You see her being in charge of her friends and manipulating them in a negative way. Chances are, she’ll do the same thing to you. This girl is cunning and to be treated with caution.

19) The one who never tells you how she feels

You always have to guess how she is feeling? This will only frustrate you in the end. Talk about it and if she doesn’t change, end it. Because a person not opening up to her boyfriend is also not willing to be truthful to him.

20) The one who compares you to her ex-boyfriends, making you look worse than them

Talking about the exes should be reduced to almost none and only occur when the situation is appropriate. Like she needs to tell you the reason why she is so jealous is that she was cheated on before - that’s perfectly fine. But if she talks about her ex a lot, putting him in a positive light or seeming sad about their break-up, leave her. She still has feelings for another man. Same counts for the absolute no-go … Comparing you with her ex like “He wouldn’t treat me like this or say this to me”

21) The one who does EVERYTHING her friends do

She will do anything her friends do? Well, be prepared she will do the most stupid of things. She doesn’t seem to be a person who has her own opinion.

22) The lazy one

The one who wanted to go do that thing for you, but (as everyday) she didn’t do it. She doesn’t try to earn money, doesn’t do anything but sit on her butt the entire day. You are not worth the effort to her.

23) The extreme workaholic

The one who is too involved with her work to switch her phone off for a single date. She is more interested in her career than you.

24) The one who doesn’t know what she wants

She’s still with another guy, but she is going to leave him VERY SOON for you. Ha, if she really loved you she already would have left. A girl who can’t decide who she wants to date, is someone you shouldn’t waste your energy on. 

25) The one who will hold everything against you

That soup you ate 5 years ago, when she wanted to eat it? Yeah, she still remembers that and she will remind you all the time. Holding grudges is immature and unhealthy and shows you she cared too much about that one thing, so much that it makes you feel frustrated.

26) The one who avoids every single fight by giving in

We all hate arguing (most of us, at least) but this girl will avoid ANY healthy argument in order to keep the peace. That way the relationship cannot develop in any direction.

27) The inappropriate one

The one who will act rude around your friends or family and not give a damn about changing her attitude. 

28) The promise breaker

Yeah, she’s broken a few. But who counts, right? This girl doesn’t take you seriously enough to take her promises seriously. Dump her. 

29) The one who knows it all better than you

Yeah, correcting you is not a big deal and she should be allowed to do that - but does she act like a know-it-all and doesn’t allow you to correct her or question her knowledge? That’s a big sign of huge ego.

30) The cold one

The one who acts cold towards you all the time, even when you are sweet to her. She’s just not that into you, pal or she is unhappy about something you did and she just can’t forget. 

Types of girls to stay away from *For the males out there*

I have worked with and experienced a lot of girls and in fact, I worked at a place, where only girls were employed. During that time I learned quite much about different types of ladies. Here are some definite no-nos. There are always exceptions, but this is the rule.

1 - The “Sure, go ahead. Meet your hot female friend alone” type

Ok, well there are exceptions when you are all friends and know each other for so long etc… but usually, a girl who loves you will show jealousy. Even if it is just a little bit - in subtle ways. But she will show it. If she doesn’t care at all, chances are she either doesn’t feel that strongly about you or she has something going on herself. 

2 - The one who ticks out, when you’re a litte jealous

Unless you really are a jealous control freak, she shouldn’t tick out when you show some jealousy. A girl who likes you will think it’s cute and show you that you don’t have to be jealous to reassure you. Also, stay away from the girl who will just smile and not give you a real response or the one who will tell you to stop being jealous with a blank look on her face. 

3 - The one who is jealous to the point of being controlling and aggressive

That one might love you, but she is a freak. I’ve been there myself… Most of the time it is more obsession than love. If you don’t give her a reason to freak out like that, then her jealousy should vanish when you reassure her and show her she doesn’t need to be jealous. If she keeps questioning you after that and trying to control your every step, run for your life. A “Who is she?” should never result in her not believing you, when you truthfully tell her she’s just a friend.

4 - The overly confident one

She’s hot. And she knows… so don’t think you’re the only one she’s seeing or speaking to. I mean the girl who thinks she’s the queen among all girls and will constantly criticize others. Not someone with a healthy amount of confidence.

5 - The one who is super insecure 

I’m talking about the extreme type that will hide herself and be depressed all the time. She might love you, but she will not accompany you anywhere, she’ll always create a bad mood by feeling bad about herself. If the fact that you love her, won’t make her open up the tiniest bit, it is better to let go than let her pull you down into her misery. Either break it or find some therapeutical help.

6 - The one who thinks it’s ok to hit a guy in an argument

It is not ok to physically hurt someone you love (unless you’re into that sort of stuff, you know what I mean ;)) But kicking a guy’s private parts is not funny! Neither is slapping him or hurting him in any way. A woman should never slap you, unless it is to defend herself. It’s all a matter of mutual respect.

7 - The one who won’t let you see her phone

She always lifts her phone out of your sight, when a message arrives? She has a lot of male names on her phone, which she doesn’t really want to talk about when you ask her? You see her smiling at her phone quite a lot but you never get to know why, even when you ask? She has something going on, is still texting an ex or keeping her “options open” in case you leave her. Any super secretive behavior about social networks or phones is to be treated with caution. Especially when her expression is like the gif, after asking her to show you the funny message.

8 - The one who will always insist on being allowed to go clubbing alone or do other single people’s activities

I have yet to meet a single girl who won’t cheat on her boyfriend after going clubbing on her own. Even a girl who truly seemed like she loves her boyfriend does that quite frequently and he has absolutely no clue about it. She just enjoys the thrill of having sex with other people or making out with others.

9 - The one who thinks all guys are stupid and doesn’t exclude you

She believes you are cheating and she will keep her own options open as well. Even if it is ridiculous that you would be cheating, a girl who talks like all guys are trash doesn’t think you are any different and won’t treat you any different. This behavior is a result of being hurt too much, but it is an unhealthy mind.

10 - The one who expects you to pay all the bills 

That one is in love with your money, not with you. A girl who loves you won’t mind trying to help out every now and then. If you still want to pay the bills and be a gentleman because you have more money than her, that’s fine. But make sure she doesn’t see it as a requirement. Don’t reveal how much money you have in the beginning stage and pretend you are in a crisis (not at the first date though and a reasonable amount, not hundreds of dollars) and see if she is willing to help you out. Don’t ask her to help, just wait for her reaction to you not being able to buy that thing for 20dollars that you needed. If she acts stupid, dump her. If she immediately is willing to help (even if she can’t) without you asking her to, then you met Miss Wonderful.

11 - The one who wants you to buy stuff for her

A girl who loves you, won’t ask you to buy something unless she needs it and has no money. A girl who loves you will be happy about that little stuffed bear or the hand-written note. She won’t ask you for something directly. If she wants something, she’ll hint at it, not make you buy it for her in a pushy way or make it a requirement. She will be humble and appreciate every dollar you spend. The girls who deserve the precious gifts won’t ask for them.